This article really made me realize things about myself that I hadn't really accepted or given much thought to before. I grew up in a broken home and when my parents marriage ended I was actually thankful. I was sick of the fighting that would often result in physical abuse and the verbal abuse was normal to me. Watching this kind of relationship while growing up was more detrimental to me then I ever knew before. Maybe thats why my relationship didn't work because I was looking for love in all the wrong places which is what can often happen to children from broken homes as they enter adulthood.
I think parents should definitley stay together for the children if there is no forms of abuse or drug-use in the home. Parents should try to give it their all and stick it out with their partner in order to maintain their children/s overall health and well being. The article says that, "children of divorce suffer depression, learning difficulties and other psychological problems more frequently than those of intact families."
After reading this it made me anxious because I am a single mother raising two young children. Is there no hope for my kids? Well, there is. With our schedule being routine and with my strong sense of self it helps the children respond positivley to life situations. I'll just keep doing what I'm doing as a single mother and everything will be just fine.
Amen to that, just because your a single parent does not mean your kids are doomed to having problems. It the choice of the parents to become self absorbed and push the kids aside or to be the same great parent after divorce as you were when they were married. I truly believe that kids will get the same loving, caring and nuturing home from a single parent that puts their kids first. I know the ideal living is with two parents and a home with a white picket fence, but reality is that most kids don't grow up that way and an unhappy married couple can do way more damage to a kid, then a loving single parent home with no yelling and no confrontation. Keep up the good work, your kids will be just fine with a loving mother!!!
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ReplyDeleteMy mom raised me and my brother as a single mother. So from the perspective of a child with divorced parents, it seems like a lot of the material we read in articles and videos and such, make it seem like children with divorced parents have this pre-disposition to not succeed or do as well. I hate how everything gets so generalized. Of course, we'd all want things to go well, have our parents together, or stay together with our spouse, but that's not always possible. I guess what I mean to really get at is, your children will be fine hehe :) Me and my brother are!
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